My co-founder at HabitStrong, has one Buddha-like quality I have never seen in anyone – she is absolutely not affected by envy, FOMO, or the disease of comparing ourselves with other people. She has never cared about how much money her classmates are making. Whenever...

I fear that lack of sleep is killing people. We lost a security guard at our apartment, who died of a heart attack. Barely 52, he was very gentle and friendly, and looked fairly healthy. While there could be many reasons for a heart attack, one thing I did notice is...

If I could go back and change one thing about my professional journey, it would be this – I would worry less and live more. For most of my life, I have been too caught up in the drama of success and failure. I have worried too much about the catastrophe that would...

When Sharon Salzberg, a renowned meditation teacher, came to India in 1970 looking for a solution to her life’s suffering, she was very disappointed. After weeks of grueling travel, she reached Bodh Gaya to attend a vipassana retreat run by Mr. SN Goenka. She was...

Here is the common advice I got from my seniors on joining the Indian Police Service – “You have to extract work from the sub-inspectors.” Like you would extract oil from coconut, squeezing out every drop. In fact, one otherwise well-meaning officer told me, “Don’t...

Whatever little goodness I have in my life, I owe it to simple, straightforward habits. All the fancy-sounding self-help formulas, often using terms like ‘energy’, ‘vibrations’, and ‘consciousness’, are mostly nonsense. As an example, when I woke up today I wasn’t...

Many years ago, a fund manager met me to discuss a company I happened to be familiar with. Before the meeting, he told me, “I am a little slow. Could you share a short note on the company that I can read at my own pace, so I come prepared for the meeting? I absorb...

During the offsite at the private equity firm I worked with, there was this German guy who was kicking the football like a rocket. Trying to catch up with him left us gasping for air – not one of us could outrun him. And while we were in our thirties, he was in his...

You don’t quit building good habits because you are inconsistent or weak-willed – more likely, you quit because of perfectionism. When you are building a habit streak, you want it to be perfect. But once in a while, life will get in the way – be it sickness, travel,...

I have made plenty of career transitions and here is my biggest learning – if you are fearless and keep learning, you can catch up with anyone, even in a new field. When I went from studying engineering to becoming a police officer it felt like a big leap. But then...

Here is how I maximize my willpower – I use it sparingly. I don’t touch alcohol because if I start liking it, I will have to fight a battle within myself to moderate it. So I avoid the battle altogether. If I have ice cream in the fridge, chances are, I will end up...

During my student days, one morning, when clearing up my hostel almirah, I found a copy of Michael Crichton’s book ‘Congo.’ I casually opened the book to see what it was about and when I closed it, I had finished the book. About 8 hrs had gone by, I had missed my...

During a video interview, the interviewer asked me this question: What would I do if I did not have any college degrees or any pedigree? Here is my answer: Even if I had nothing else, I would still have Coursera. There was a time when to get a good job, you had to...

The biggest mistake I made in my twenties wasn’t that I lacked focus, ambition, or hard work – none of that. My biggest mistake was that I took life too seriously. I worried about too many things, cared too much about what my bosses thought (including the ones I did...

Here is a simple skill that can accelerate your career: Learning to disagree without being disagreeable or putting others on the defensive. When you tell someone, ‘I disagree with you,’ more often than not, it makes them defensive. If people take it as a personal...