I became a ‘first-time manager’ on the day 1 of my first job, when I took charge as Assistant Superintendent of Police in Karunagappally, a suburb of Kollam district in Kerala.
I had two police inspectors and seven police stations under me. And both my inspectors were about 20 years older, and infinitely more experienced (since I had zero experience 😊).
Like any first-time manager, I wanted to be taken seriously. And even though my authority was stamped by law, I would sometimes wonder, “Do these guys think I am capable or that I became their boss just because I cleared an exam?”
One of my subordinates was very abrasive, though he was respectful with me. Yet, when he took some action, I used to sometimes feel, “Is he trying to defy me?”
When we become managers, we want to be respected and accepted. And sometimes, it can even create some insecurity.
But all that overthinking is unnecessary.
You don’t have to be a superhero to be a good manager. Nor do you need to compete with your subordinates or second-guess their intention.
The solution is simple: Just focus on your job and give yourself time. Eventually, you will become really good at what you do.
And when you are competent, people will respect you, even if grudgingly.
– Rajan